Have I ever said how much I hate relationship advice from the older generations? Because if not, just know, I HATE IT. I hate everything about it. I hate how they tell me I’m too pretty to be tied down and that I could have a million guys or any guy I wanted. I hate how they say they’ve been in my situation before and wish they knew then what they know now. I hate how they say I need to enjoy these years. STOP. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years now. We met when we were freshmen, we hung out a lot junior year, lost connection, became friends a year later and well, here we are. To be honest, I don’t know if he’s the one. We don’t know what our futures hold. We both agree that we want a future together though and for right now, that’s okay with me. We aren’t jumping up and putting a ring on it but our goal is to get to that point. Our main focus right now is working for a living (which we both have to do) and going to college! Being a young, serious couple is fun but I think the thing that hits me hardest is the negativity that comes with it. Just the other day, I had a woman sit down and lecture me about my relationship, something she knows nothing about. She made the statement, “wow, nobody can convince you not to get married at 20.” Yes, I’m only 20 and yes, I do think about marrying my boyfriend in the future. She brought up how we both are going to change a lot and yes, I understand we still have a lot of changing and growing to do. As much as I hate change, it is inevitable. We will change everyday, no matter how old we get but I think we can learn to grow with eachother, and change together, for the better. I guess what makes me so mad is that older people compare my relationship to theirs. They talk about statistics and divorce and I know all of that is real but nowhere does it say that MY relationship will end in divorce just because we started dating young. I guess what I want is to stop receiving, what I consider, negative advice and start getting advice on how to make things work in a world like we live in today. How can I prevent my future marriage from ending in divorce? What are things I could do differently in my relationship? What are some things you learned from your past marriage/s that could help my future marriage? Not every young couple is going to make it but some do. Some grow up together and change together and stay in love. The way I see it is, I’m enjoying these years. I’m having fun and living them the best that I can and making memories… I’m just not doing it alone. I don’t have wild, crazy nights in clubs dancing on random guys and waking up with a massive hangover.. Instead, I have wild, crazy adventures with what could potentially be my soul mate and the best part is, I’ll actually be able to remember these awesome times when I’m older.